We work with amazing coaches. Experts that help others be better in their careers, lives, relationships. Each expert is able to share remarkable life-changing wisdom. We’ve asked our coaches what the one piece of advice is they can share to uplift others. The lessons shared here by 15 of our coaches can teach you a lot.
"Let everything, absolutely everything be your teacher. Change any ways you might position yourself otherwise, and learn how to ask the questions that will really set you free."
"Before making any decision, take a moment to assess the impact on your health/mental health first. Always ask yourself: "Is this good for my physical and mental well-being?" if it's not, then there's no point heading down that route. Be wise though, it's never as black and white as it seems. Entrepreneurship for example, it isn't exactly the easiest route, and yes it has caused me stress many times, but it's proved to be much better for my overall well-being than working to fill someone else's pockets. Always assess your health and well-being carefully before committing to anything, and you'll notice how much happier you are as a result. Even in yoga they say listen to your body first, then your teacher."
"Don't compare your beginning and middle to someone else's end. Be proud of where you are, and keep moving closer to where you want to be."
"The 90-90-90 rule: If you can accept 90% of all that life directs your way, 90% (meaning you don't demand 100% perfection from everything), then your life will be 90% better. In short, abandoning perfectionism is the shortest way to greater happiness."
"If you love what you do, you will never work a day in your life."
"Focus on what you want to do. Everything else is a distraction."
"We may think we want the truth, but sometimes the facts can be difficult to handle, causing us very unpleasant emotions. Our minds tend to flinch away from these facts, preferring instead to seek out the comfort of our pre-existing beliefs. What separates true leaders – at every level of an organization – from just those with titles is the ability to face these unpleasant facts, handle the uncomfortable emotions evoked, and take the needed steps to accomplish the organization’s priorities.
Being a truth-seeker involves undertaking the sometimes-difficult work of expanding one’s comfort zone and challenging one’s pre-existing notions for the sake of seeing the truth of reality. Even from a purely emotional perspective, a clearer view of reality will pay great dividends down the road. Sticking to pre-existing beliefs that do not align with reality causes us to develop unrealistic expectations, and we inevitably grow stressed, anxious, and depressed when our bubble is popped by the sharp needle of reality. So, while it might not be pleasant to face the facts in the moment, in the long run you will be much better off in getting to the unpleasant realizations quickly, updating your beliefs to match the facts, and aligning your emotions to a more accurate understanding of reality.
Of course, the emotional payoff is just one part of the benefit you gain in orienting toward inconvenient truths instead of comfortable falsehoods. Perhaps an even bigger benefit comes from avoiding bad decisions.
Everything in our lives, personal and professional, results from our decisions. Making good decisions depends on us having the right information. Did you ever hear the acronym GIGO? That stands for “garbage in, garbage out” and stems from the field of information technology in reference to computers producing the wrong output if they get fed bad information. Our brains are in essence organic computers that make decisions based on the information they get. If we feed them bad information based on us holding false beliefs, we will make bad decisions, in our private and professional lives.
These bad decisions are costly. In our everyday life, bad decisions cause us to lose money, time, relationships, health, and happiness. Making bad decisions in the workplace results in our organizations losing money, time, and reputation, as well as undermining teamwork and employee morale."
"Believe in yourself. You are braver than you think, more talented than you know, and capable of more than you imagine." Roy T. Bennett
"Trust in your own story."
"Don't be afraid to use your imagination."
"My number one piece of advice would be to stay committed. Press on and press through, no matter what obstacles or adversity you face. If you waiver on your commitment, then you are in danger of losing out on everything in life and business that you were born to achieve. I’ve seen so many people quit when their breakthrough was right around the corner. Don’t let that be you! Let your frustration drive you and make you so mad that you refuse to ever quit. Stay focused on your Why (ultimate purpose in life) and committed to achieving it."
"You've got one life... so do it all."
"Be honest with yourself in an objective way. Instead of looking in the mirror which might show 5% of the real you -and where you spend way too much time-, get to work on the other 95%. Work with your shortages, overcome your fears and phobias, learn what you need to know in order to get where you want to go, develop your confidence, and have fun!!! This is not a dress rehearsal, the time is nownownownowNOW!!"
"We live in a world that spoon feeds us values, attitudes and ideas that might not be our own. Spend at least 5 minutes each day with your own thoughts and ruminations. Learn to tune in to how your soul speaks back when you inquire. For example, where did I feel at my best, my worst, my most vulnerable and my most inspired? Take personal notes and start to live according to your own "knowing" -- and your own leading. You'll feel more authentic, empowered and probably a lot happier, too!"
"Know your audience. Understand who your clients are and who they are not. Understand why people love you, why others do not, and focus on those who you can serve the best. We cannot help everyone, but those we can help, we should."
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